Women in 35. Dos and Don’ts.

July is always special to me. My mother brought me to this world 35 years ago in this energetic month of summer.

Since my 30, I had forgotten exactly my age. Its not because of escaping from the reality. Just when I devote my days working on something it’s right and worthy, I enjoy my life so much then I forget the time. When I look at the mirror, I can see the change on my skin, but my mind and my body feeling even more active then before.  

For a joyful body and mind, this is my check list in 35.

Dos.

1/ Do Yoga.

Not surprise this is the first point. No worry I’m not going to explain how yoga benefits our life in a thousand words essay. I just like to post out that Yoga not only improving our body condition, but guide us to a mindful life. Living in the present moment is the best way to transfer fear into bliss. 

2/ Spend more time with your parents.

While you are 35, you are suddenly realise that your parents is older then you imagine. From their gesture, temple, speed of response and diet, you know they are changing. Not to ignore them. Its the time to react. They need you more patient and time of accompany. Give them more love when you still able to, when they still here with you.

3/ Time do things according to your heart but not only for the return.

We may used to be educated to do things by evaluating the actual return. We tends pick the major which good for us to get a high paid job rather then the one that we truly interested in. I believe when we are 35, we had earn some experience from our career path. As long as our life allows, its the time to return to our heart. Do something that you really love to. Let it colouring your life and bringing you more inspirations. At the moment your heart being satisfied, you truly acknowledge your existent.

4/ Leant to love with more space. 

No matter our state, marriage or single, its a time to leave our partner and ourselves more space in a relationship. When getting too closed, we lost the focus. We can’t see each other’s need, emotion and expectation clearly. We are more independent in our 35. So that we are able to create space for each other to enjoy the me-time, develop our own hobby or meet our own buddies.  When we come back home, we have more things to share with. In this sustainable relationship, We can keep inspirited each others in our rest of life.

Don’ts.

1/ Compare yourself to your younger ages. 

It’s not because of escape as I mentioned in the opening of the essay, but just not necessary to do so. Doubtless, we are getting older. More winkles, less hair, skin become more dry, feeling extract tired to go to overnight party etc.  This is a fact. So this comparison is meaningless. More you do this kind of comparison, more you upset with your 35. However, changes can be something good. We are actually be more confidence, considerable and experienced. We know how to enjoy life, how to make balance, how to love ourself in the best way. We stop taking advantage of our youth but live with our intelligent. 

2/ Care too much how others think of us.

Most of us do care how people look at us when we were teens. Popularly we afraid to be rejected or abandoned by the group. Now, we had develop our own live. Time helps us to filter the best to lift over. Who don’t respect our feeling, we can just walk away. No matter in a relationship or in the workplace, we go for which we think its right. We are here responsible to our own decision despite other’s words or expectation.

3/ Start to worry about 40.

I truly understand once we on board 35, 40 is the next psychological barrier. However, there is still 5 years to reach the next check point. Such a waste if we use this period of time to worry something surely happen soon. Instead, make use of the special power of 35, our life experience, energy and curiosity to learn something new, to do some small business, to travel around the world with conscious, to develop a health lifestyle ever etc. Time files when you enjoy your life. 40 is not special anymore since our everyday is full of excitement.

4/ Sacrifice all of yourself to take care the family.

Some of us may already have our own family and growth a couple of cute kids in 35. We all understand taking care family and kids is a 24/7 job with huge pressure. But if possible, try to keep up your hobby. This is a great way to balance your life. Even an hour per week, it allows us to reaching to our inner-self, to release tension and keep you fresh.  You still be you no matter the change of your state. 

Text & Image @ Christine Sit